Is Your Relationship Toxic or Healthy? Is Your Relationship Toxic or Healthy? 20 honest questions, choose the option that feels most true for you. 1. After conversations, how do you usually feel? Drained, guilty, or criticized Sometimes upset, sometimes okay Supported and lighter 2. When you celebrate something, how does your partner react? They downplay it or act jealous A mix, sometimes excited, sometimes quiet They genuinely celebrate with you 3. How are decisions made in your relationship? Mostly one-sided. I get little input We compromise unevenly at times We decide together respectfully 4. If you set a boundary, how is it usually handled? Ignored, mocked, or dismissed Sometimes respected, sometimes pushed Respected and discussed calmly 5. How often do you feel controlled or monitored? Often, calls, checks, demands Occasionally, if tensions rise Rarely or never, I feel free Next 6. When you disagree, how do arguments end? With blame, insults, or silent treatment Sometimes resolved, sometimes left hanging Calmly, we listen and work it out 7. Does your partner make you feel safe to speak up? No, I fear their reaction Sometimes yes, sometimes no Yes, I can speak honestly 8. How balanced is emotional support between you two? It’s mostly one-sided. I give, they take Fair sometimes, uneven at others Mutual; we support each other 9. How does your partner react to your friends/family? They try to isolate me or complain about them Sometimes tense, sometimes okay They respect my relationships 10. Is jealousy used to test or punish you? Yes, jealousy is often weaponized Occasionally, in insecure moments No, trust is the default Back Next 11. Does your partner respect your goals and independence? They belittle or block my goals Sometimes supportive, sometimes not They encourage and respect me 12. How often do they apologize and change hurtful behavior? Rarely, apologies are empty Sometimes followed by small changes They apologize sincerely and grow 13. Does your partner gaslight (deny your reality) or rewrite events? Yes, often I’m told I’m wrong or ‘crazy’ Occasional moments of doubt or denial No, they validate and acknowledge facts 14. How are finances handled, collaboration or control? They control money and decisions Mixed, some joint, some controlled We plan and decide together 15. Do you feel able to have separate time and hobbies? No, I’m pressured to always be together Sometimes supported, sometimes judged Yes, independence is encouraged Back Next 16. How often do you worry about your physical or emotional safety? Often, I feel unsafe or threatened Occasional worries Rarely or never, I feel safe 17. Does your partner celebrate your growth or minimize it? They minimize or compete with me Sometimes supportive, sometimes competitive They truly celebrate my growth 18. How are apologies, sincere repair or blame-shift? Blame-shift, excuses, or denial Occasional genuine apologies Sincere apologies + actions to change 19. Do you feel your emotional needs are met over time? Rarely, I feel neglected Sometimes yes, sometimes no Yes, we meet each other’s needs 20. Looking ahead, do you feel hopeful about the relationship? No, I feel stuck or anxious Some hope with concerns Yes we share a positive future Back Finish Related Posts How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind Anna Welch October 27, 2025 No Comments Read More Can A Man Love Two Women Anna Welch October 23, 2025 No Comments Read More Can You Love Someone And Not Trust Them Anna Welch October 19, 2025 No Comments Read More
