Is My Partner Falling Out of Love With Me?

A Relationship Investment Assessment from RealLoveTips.com

This quiz is a compassionate look at the signs of emotional withdrawal. It assesses changes in your partner’s affection, communication, and emotional investment.

1. How frequently does my partner initiate non-sexual physical affection (hugs, hand-holding, cuddling)?

Frequently, it’s a regular part of our day. Sometimes, but less than I’d prefer. Rarely, only when asked or in special moments. Almost never, and I notice a physical distance.

2. When we are together, how often do they make eye contact and seem genuinely focused on me?

Almost always, they are fully present. Often, but sometimes distracted by their phone/work. I often catch them looking away or seem disinterested. Rarely, they avoid deep interaction.

3. Have they recently shown a reduced desire for sexual intimacy or rejected advances more often?

No, our intimacy level remains consistent and satisfying. Slight reduction, but attributed to stress or tiredness. Yes, there has been a noticeable, unexplained drop in desire. Yes, intimacy is almost non-existent or feels obligatory.

4. Does my partner still express verbal appreciation or compliment me for personal qualities, not just actions?

Yes, they regularly verbalize my value to them. Occasionally, mostly when prompted or after a nice event. Rarely, and usually only about practical things. No, they rarely express admiration or love verbally anymore.

5. Do they seem annoyed or irritated by habits or traits they once found endearing or acceptable?

No, they are generally tolerant and accepting. Occasionally, but they manage their reactions well. Yes, minor things trigger clear irritation or criticism. Yes, it feels like they are easily annoyed by my presence.

6. How much effort does my partner put into initiating conversation beyond logistics (bills, kids, chores)?

A lot; they share their thoughts and ask about mine daily. Some; we talk about deep subjects weekly. Little; most conversations are about household management. Almost none; we barely talk, or they prefer silence.

7. When you try to discuss your feelings or relationship issues, how does your partner react?

They listen patiently and validate my emotions. They listen, but sometimes get defensive. They shut down, change the subject, or minimize the issue. They get angry, blame me, or walk away.

8. How much time does your partner prefer to spend away from you (hobbies, friends, solitary time)?

We have a healthy balance of time together and apart. They need a little more space lately, but it’s understandable. They seem to seek out excessive time alone or with others, avoiding me. They actively avoid coming home or spending weekends together.

9. When you fight, do they put effort into repairing the conflict and reconciling afterwards?

Yes, they always work to resolve, repair, and reconnect. They usually apologize, but the core issue often remains unsolved. The fight ends with distance, or the issue is ignored until the next fight. They simply wait for me to initiate the reunion or reconciliation.

10. Have they stopped sharing personal news (stress at work, future goals, deep worries) with you first?

No, I am still their primary confidant for important matters. Sometimes they share with others first, but usually come to me. Yes, I often hear significant news from their friends or family first. Yes, they seem to have developed entirely separate emotional lives.

11. When talking about the next 6-12 months, do they naturally use “we” or “us”?

Always, our plans are intertwined and discussed together. Often, but I feel like I initiate most of the joint planning. They use “I” more often, making plans without consulting me. They actively avoid discussions about our shared future.

12. How interested is your partner in going on dates, short trips, or actively creating new shared memories?

Highly interested and frequently plans or suggests activities. They accept my suggestions but rarely initiate plans. They often decline activities or suggest we just stay home. They show clear resistance to spending quality, planned time together.

13. When you introduce a major change in your life (career, friend, hobby), how supportive are they?

Extremely supportive and show genuine pride in my growth. Generally supportive, but sometimes preoccupied. Lukewarm, often expressing doubt or criticism about my choices. Unsupportive, seeming resentful or uncaring about my life.

14. Do they remember small details about your life, like your appointments or recent emotional events?

Yes, they actively listen and show they remember details. They remember big things, but small details are often forgotten. I often have to repeat important information or events to them. They seem to have tuned out and struggle to recall anything important to me.

15. Have they changed their appearance, social circle, or routine dramatically without discussing the reason with you?

No, our lives are stable, and changes are mutual. Minor changes, but they were open about the reason. Yes, significant changes occurred without explanation or inclusion. Yes, it feels like they are building a new life separate from mine.

16. When you are sad or upset, does your partner still offer comfort or genuine empathy?

Yes, they are my primary source of comfort and support. They offer comfort, but they often seem impatient for me to feel better. They minimize my feelings or suggest I’m overreacting. They ignore my distress or seem irritated by my emotional needs.

17. How often do you find yourself feeling lonely, even when you are physically together?

Rarely, I feel connected when we are together. Sometimes, usually when they are distracted by their devices. Often, they seem mentally and emotionally checked out. Constantly, I feel like a stranger or a roommate.

18. Does your partner still show playful or silly behavior, suggesting they are comfortable and happy around you?

Yes, humor and lightheartedness are common between us. Sometimes, but it’s becoming rarer. Rarely, the atmosphere feels heavy or serious most of the time. Never, they seem moody or emotionally flat in my presence.

19. If you were to ask your partner directly if they were happy or felt distant, would they be honest?

Yes, we have a foundation of radical honesty. Probably, but they might minimize their true feelings. Unlikely; I believe they would avoid the truth to prevent conflict. No, they actively lie or mislead me about their feelings.

20. Overall, do you believe the emotional distance is temporary (stress) or a deep-seated change in affection?

Temporary—I believe the love is still strong. Unsure—I am concerned, but there’s hope. Deep-seated—I see consistent signs of withdrawal. Deep-seated—I am convinced they no longer want to be here.

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