Are You Dating the Right Person? Are You Dating the Right Person? 20 thoughtful questions, answer honestly to get a clear picture. 1. Do you feel safe being your true self around them? I often hide who I am Sometimes I can, sometimes I can’t Yes, completely myself 2. When you share something vulnerable, how do they respond? They dismiss or mock it They try but sometimes miss the mark They listen and validate me 3. Do they support your goals and personal growth? They frequently undermine my goals They support some things but not all They cheer me on and help when needed 4. How do you feel after spending time with them? Drained, anxious, or unsettled Mixed, good moments and bad moments Refreshed, happy, connected 5. How do they treat people who can’t do anything for them? Cold, dismissive, or cruel Sometimes kind, sometimes indifferent Kind and respectful to everyone Next 6. How do you both handle conflict? Yelling, stonewalling, or walking away without resolving We try, but fall into old patterns We discuss, repair, and learn from fights 7. Do your values (honesty, respect, family) align? Not aligned, core differences worry me Some alignment, some differences Yes, our core values match closely 8. How well do you communicate about needs and expectations? We avoid these talks or they always turn bad We talk but avoid deeper topics We communicate clearly and check in 9. Do they make you feel chosen (not taken for granted)? No, I feel invisible often Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t Yes, I feel appreciated and chosen 10. How do they react when you set a healthy boundary? They get angry or punish me They grumble but sometimes respect it They respect and honor my boundary Back Next 11. Do you trust them with your feelings and secrets? No, I worry they’ll use them against me Sometimes, depending on the topic Yes, I trust them fully 12. How balanced are the efforts (planning, emotional labor, compromise)? Mostly one-sided; I do most of the work Sometimes balanced, often not Efforts are fairly equal and noticed 13. When something is important to you, do they show up? No, they often miss or minimize it They try but sometimes fail Yes, reliably present and supportive 14. How do they treat feedback about themselves? Defensive, blames you, or refuses to change Mixed, they listen but need time Open, reflective, and willing to grow 15. Do you imagine a future together with ease and excitement? No, future feels uncertain or scary Sometimes hopeful, sometimes unsure Yes, I’m excited and calm picturing us Back Next 16. How do they handle your mistakes or flaws? They shame or belittle me They point them out but sometimes compassionately They respond with kindness and help me learn 17. Are you free to keep friendships and time alone without pressure? No, I’m pressured to choose them over friends Sometimes they struggle with it Yes, they support my friendships and space 18. Do they celebrate your wins without jealousy? They react with envy or minimize my wins Sometimes jealous, sometimes proud They celebrate me genuinely 19. How consistent are their words and actions? Often inconsistent, promises broken Some consistency, some letdowns Consistently reliable and truthful 20. When you picture your partner in five years, does it feel right? No, it feels wrong or uneasy Mixed, hopeful yet unsure Yes, it feels natural and good Back Finish Related Posts How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind Anna Welch October 27, 2025 No Comments Read More Can A Man Love Two Women Anna Welch October 23, 2025 No Comments Read More Can You Love Someone And Not Trust Them Anna Welch October 19, 2025 No Comments Read More
